Why doesn’t it feel like enough? A New Blueprint for Motherhood

I was supposed to be happy wholeheartedly investing in early childhood but there I sat, across from my therapist, laden with guilt. Making a new blueprint is letting go of an idealistic version of my life, whether it’s my ideals or someone else’s, and giving up the useless practice of “should-ing” myself.

Me Too, Now What? – What Our Children Need to Learn today

These past few weeks, I read story after story, bravely posted both by close friends and people I don’t know, sharing experiences with sexual harassment and assault. I thought about the incidents in my own life that left me feeling physically or emotionally violated. I wanted to be brave and share my stories too. I…

#MeToo. Now What?

To read Part I, click here.  Problematic Message 2: When communicating your discomfort, fear, or pain, the people who love you most will aim to silence you as quickly as possible. Our society is not fond of the sound of a crying baby. I observed this in the eye rolls upon boarding a plane back…

My Messy Journey Toward Woke

I’m so grateful that the people in my life responded to my ignorant comments with curiosity and a desire to help me understand. Read about the author’s journey toward racial and social justice awareness.

Will my Kids Crinkle their Noses in Asian Markets?

Passing on our family cultures in interracial marriages is a challenge. There are words that I use to try to sum up the differences between my and my husband’s families growing up. They are categorical identities such as Jewish and Christian, Chinese and Caucasian, immigrant and American. They are quick reference words that might explain…

Our Jewish-Asian Marriage Isn’t Trendy

I am often met with a “knowing look” when I (a Chinese American female) share that my husband is Jewish. “Oh yeah, that’s a thing,” says [insert well-meaning person’s name].  And you know, according to all sorts of sources—including the New York Times—it does seem to be a thing. I’m one-half of a “marriage trend” that’s…